如果我是妳的話,我也不會把這樣的話當真
俗有云:人不為已,天誅地滅;事情碰到了(第一胎生女兒了),才會知道對第二胎的想法
畢竟男方已經很"大方"了,願意分一個小孩從女方姓了,這已經很足夠了
抗議適可而止,誰知道你有沒有小男孩的緣,就先為第二胎爭成一團
說不定還一直生女兒哩~ (當然希望你能連二胎都是男孩)
你媽媽的建議很好!
還有女人不要太強勢
不然比較生不到小男孩,去做精蟲分離吧
不然一連生三個女生(有可能)
加上此次的芥蒂,以後還真會吵的沒完沒了
男方說不定還會藉口去外面生,婆婆也不會給你好臉色
Of course he shouldn't have agreed with you first and then changed his mind, that'll make you feel cheated.
Two advices I give you:
1) You are already a married person. A married person should have a mature mind and indepenedent thoughts. Just because your parents want to have someone with your last name, is it the way it must be? To your husband, of course he doesn't want ppl to make fun of him that the kids has a different last name as he does, but is this so important to getting divorced over? And to you, is it so important to please your parents that you'll destroy your own family and let your kids become parentless? THINK about it. You are not only your parents' "good daughter" anymore. You are at the same time, your husband's wife, and children's mother.
2) Don't ever say divorce. it's an irresponsible and childish thing to have babies and divorce. Think about the effects it will have on your children FOR THEIR WHOLE LIFE wondering why they can't have a NORMAL family, simply because you want to make your parents happy and have 1 kid with their last name. You call your husband a liar for not following through on his promise, but divorcing makes you ditch the oath you took when you two get married that you'll be together for life and "for better or worse."
Is it worth it? To an outsider, you are taking your marriage as a childish game.
我是從母姓的，年紀也不小了，在過去沒有法律允許從母姓的條件下，我經常被問到＂為什麼你性張，你弟姓林"？爸爸不是入贅，只因為媽媽家裡沒有男孩，在過去農業社會，總是希望有個男孩來"傳宗接代"~
我從母姓，對小時候的我，或許有些影響，但那也僅是每次總要多做說明!
不過，説清楚點，我是從母從父姓，所以是"複姓"，就像是"郭李建夫"一樣，不過我是3個字，或許可以給樓主參考~
我跟爸爸、媽媽的感情很好~我超愛他們的，不會因為"姓"的關係，影響了我們的情感!我也結婚了，就之前的原因，我的想還當然也是跟著我姓張，也是沒問題!!
說那嚜多，無疑是希望樓主，情緒的問題先放下，這些都不是大不了事，重點是，你對小孩的解釋跟教育，不要傷了和氣，意氣用事的離了婚~
順便說~我還生了3個女兒呢？就原來媽媽的目的，看樣子是失敗了....
又怎樣~我還跟爸媽一起住耶~，家裡幸福的很，就當我在炫耀好了!!
順便跟我的老婆說聲謝謝，這年頭，要跟公婆一起住的不多了!!
樓主請寬心，放下!你會得到更多~祝福你囉~
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