yypups wrote:
其實我跟老婆也很想再...(恕刪)
哈哈哈，好可愛喔！
每一家的方式都不同
祝大家幸福美滿啦
但是要辯解一下
那個我家不會發生不平衡的狀態
基本上幫老婆寫報告都要構思好幾天
接下來幾天要寫到早上4 5點(小弟的文筆不好 要讓人看得懂要修改很多次的 哈)
因為這些報告讓老婆在公司很火紅
主管請他去傳授心法(她婉拒了 她在心裡說又不是我寫的) 哈
他很爽的 沒問題的
重點是 每個人都要為對方付出 為對方想 這樣就很好 很持久啦
說說好笑的
有一天老婆端出兩種蓮霧 (一種是普通的 一種是砲彈的) 看電視她要我拿水果給他吃 我也順便拿一顆吃
幾輪之後
她在心裡想 為什麼每次我都拿普通的給她 就偷偷的觀察我 然後到最後兩顆時(一顆普通的 一顆砲彈的)
到底我會拿哪一顆給她 當然我又給她普通的 他立刻說被我抓到了 你這傢伙....因為砲彈的比較好吃 哈
分享一下以前念書時讀到的幾篇 他山之石:
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To marriage,
Still many couples stay together in spite of demanding jobs, big mortgages, and parental pressures.
How?
While all partners face inevitable soars and slumps at variouspoints in their relationships, those who survive learn how to NAVIGATE them successfully
儘管工作很累, 高額的貸款, 為人父母的壓力. 還是有很多夫妻不離不棄.
他們是如何做到的?
當所有夫妻面對婚姻關係中各種難免的高低起伏時, 仍繼續走下去的, 是因為他們從學習中知道如何成功地渡過難關.
說穿了也就是諒解, 夫妻同心吧. 適時修正自己的想法(navigate), 成熟地思考如何解決問題, 才是對婚姻正面的能量
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(Four)Things I used to hate about you by Phil Callaway
Six months before my wedding day, an elderly friend tapped my shoulder in the post office and offered me some free advice. “Ramona’s lovely girl.” he said. ”she deserves a good husband. Marry her before she finds one.” Then he whispered a curious thing: “you want a happy marriage?”
Of course I did.
“When the things that attracted you to her start to drive you apart,” he said, smiling,” find a way to reverse the process.”
I’ve been thinking about his advice for many years, and it’s starting to make sense. When Ramona and I were dating, I loved the way she took life slowly. She taught me to stop and taste the strawberries. But three months after our honeymoon, as I waited in the car, resisting the urge to honk, I knew exactly what he meant.
At one point I had considered nailing a list of 95 irritations to the bathroom door, something Martin Luther may have done to his wife. Only four came to mind:
1.Your sense of humor is warped. The funniest thing I did this week was hit my head on a cupboard door. You laughed. Please do not laugh when you read this.
2.You are kind to telemarketer.
3.My wool sweater is missing. The one I got for my 17th birthday.
4.I love to be on time. You do not. Meet me in the living room at 8p.m. sharp, and we’ll talk about this.
Thankfully, I restrained from posting the list and considered the elderly man’s advice to “reverse the process”. Now after 25 years of marriage, I’ve learned that if my wife and I were the same, we’d be in trouble. If we kept all my wool sweaters, we’d need 13 U-Haul each time we moved.
Her kindness to telemarketer is the same kindness that first drew me to her. Thankfully, it has tempered with time. She now offers a polite, “No thanks” followed by a click. Or she says, “Here, I’ll let you talk to my husband.” I’ve asked her to meet me in the living room at 8 p.m. sharp to talk about this.
Phil and his wife, Ramona, just celebrated their 25th anniversary. Phil was on time.
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Cooking is not my forte. My kids rave about my wife’s cooking, but they remind me of my culinary skills whenever it’s my turn to cook. (Of course they are only so many ways to serve K.D.) it may sting a little, but you know, I don’t get bent out of shape over my failure at that particular parenting task. Gourmet cooking is low on my list of parenting priorities.
What is the most important task in parenting? Sure, giving your kids guidance and providing for them is important. But the greatest gift we can give our kids is love.
A scholar once asked Jesus what the most important thing in life is? “The most important one.” answered Jesus,” is this…..’ love the lord your god with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength’ the second is this:’ love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no greater commandment than these.’
Jesus nailed down the bottom lines of life- loving god, and then loving our neighbor. And who is our closest neighbor? Could it be the child in next bedroom? or the kid sitting in your family room with video game controller in his hands? How about that teenager who just dinged up your car?
The challenge with loving these around us is that communicating “ I love you, and I care” is no simple task. If I really want to communicate love to my family, should I only use the words I am comfortable using? Of course not. If I expect to be heard or understood, I need to discover methods of expressing love to them in ways that they recognize. Some feel loved when you hug them. Others feel loved when you give them your time or help them with their homework. Each of our four children senses love differently. What makes your children feel really loved?
We can do everything else right, but if we failed to express love, we failed miserably. The consequeces of feeling unloved haunt people with their whole lives. Kids live at home with their families for only a short period of time. I’d like to think about that when our kids leave the nest, they’ll say something like” mom and dad had their quirks, but they really loved me.” In fact, kids will forgive a lot of parenting mistakes as long as they know that we have done our very best at loving them. I may be a lousy cook, but I know for sure that I do love my kids.
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