路跑一哥 wrote:
本王不是來找架吵的,本王要回覆前就先看過所有留言了,要跟妳吵的話,本王是一點勝算都沒有...哇哈哈...
我笑了～～～
路跑一哥 wrote:
唉,妳不要把我們的關...(恕刪)
借法王的話來說一句，"入境隨俗"你聽過沒有?
我自己也有日本籍，加拿大讀高中，美國讀大學的友人。甚至休假坐私人噴射機去拉斯維加斯賭博的沙烏地阿拉伯人都有。
如果阿拉伯的王子跟你說，可以做我的第四個老婆嗎?妳的反應是如何?
我想是怒不可遏吧!
但是對他們來說，第四個老婆表示以後就不會再娶了，如果沒遇到很珍貴的女性，寧願把這位置空著。
妳從頭到尾訴說的，就是平等與尊重。
妳才是主角，婚禮進行的方式，如有變動，至少應該與妳商量。這是平等。
如有需要妳配合的地方"請、謝謝、對不起"這是禮貌與尊重。
妳有妳的堅持，但是別忘了"入境隨俗"這句話!
妳google搜尋一下"愛斯基摩人 老婆"，在那極寒的地方，把自己的老婆送去給朋友陪睡，這是極上的待客之道。
妳能接受妳就是那老婆嗎?不能?!請妳不要嫁給愛斯基摩人。台灣的婚禮妳不能接受?!請妳不要嫁給台灣人。
如果妥協短暫的婚禮，換來長久和平的夫家關係。值不值得?取決在妳。
妳不能指望一個國家的人民，都與妳有同樣的觀念思想與水準。
就如同已是黑人總統的美國，就一定沒有歧視黑人的白人一樣。
那都是不可能的事!
所以妳想改變這一切嗎?
簡單!像網友說的，去表示，去抗爭。去要求改變去要求立法，甚至自己去選立委算了。
觀念的問題沒有誰是誰非，在於溝通而已。
朵瑞咪 wrote:
經過那次經驗後，我學會讓自己圓融點，學會什麼叫以退為進，學會感恩，接受別人對我的批評。我要進步的空間還很大，但我知道自己的缺失在哪...(恕刪)
聰明的很多，像朵咧咪這樣有智慧的就要找找囉～
If u two can't work this thing out, how the heck is it possible for u two to walk the long way on this marriage??
Marriage isn't seeking for fairness, it takes "cooperation" n "settlement"
I don't even understand why u need to come up here to post this article
Apparently you are not looking for any advice but arguments. But what for?
You are the one who's ganna get married, not them.
Having your own principle is ok, but being stubborn is annoying.
Good luck.
路跑一哥 wrote:
唉,妳不要把我們的關係搞的那麼劍拔弩張嘛,本王不是來找架吵的,本王要回覆前就先看過所有留言了,要跟妳吵的話,本王是一點勝算都沒有...哇哈哈...
再說,妳都叫本王法王了,怎麼還會如此不了解本王?以本王這種格局,怎麼可能幹出去翻以前的證據,然後要人來向本王道歉這種小鼻子小眼睛的事?哇哈哈...
當然啦,觀念之下無輸贏,妳的觀念,本王也不能說妳錯,只是本王覺得,有時候爭到了一個理字,但卻會失去更多東西,看妳怎麼去取捨吧....
總而言之,既然妳們有共識,那就好啦,對了,那妳有沒有想過,男友如果喬不定父母那邊,那妳們怎麼辦?分手嗎?
其實我說道歉的那一段不是指法王耶, 抱歉我的表達不佳!
我是指那些一直要別人跟他們一般觀念的人!
法王的格局怎麼可能這樣呢?? (巴結貌!)
他喬不定就不結婚啊! 然後我會好幾年都不跟他結婚(之後若關係好轉之後他媽之後一定會催), 如果之後因為這樣他要分手就無話可說了.
(因為其實之前我們相處一直都沒有問題{又, 沒有問題不是說沒有發生過問題或是吵架, 而是我們總可以找到方式去解決, 或是互相尊重/妥協} 是直到說要結婚這件事才發生這些, 主要, 都是因為他媽那邊引起的!)
而且之前那麼多年都是媽一直催一直催我們要結婚, 三不五時就問一下三不五時就問一下.
就是因為這樣我才不爽的. 你要催就催, 你說要緩就緩??
而男生是說, 如果真的喬不定而他又不想逆他媽的意先跟我登記的話, 那麼他就會一年都完全不回家, 不跟家裡連絡(我沒有要求他這樣做喔! 我想都沒想到, 是他自己說的!)(而且我也覺得好像不是那麼好, 但是如果都他家人很爽沒有一點教訓好像也不是很對, 所以我也不知道會怎樣, 反正現在沒有這個問題!)
manup wrote:
Sorry, I just don't get it.
If u two can't work this thing out, how the heck is it possible for u two to walk the long way on this marriage??
Marriage isn't seeking for fairness, it takes "cooperation" n "settlement"
I don't even understand why u need to come up here to post this article
Apparently you are not looking for any advice but arguments. But what for?
You are the one who's ganna get married, not them.
Having your own principle is ok, but being stubborn is annoying.
Good luck.
Keep saying other(which is me, in thiscase!) is wrong isn't stubborn?
(And by the way, this is my own life, and my marriage, not yours, and not others!)
Keep trying to twist someone's mind isn't stubborn?
So, do you now understand how annoying you guys are??
And if marriage takes "cooperation" n "settlement", it should not be just one who "compromise", it should take two!
As I have said, things already settled down.
And good luck to you too! (Although I don't really think you mean it!)
alhnm wrote:
Keep sayin...(恕刪)
Haha, so be it...I don't think I ever pointed you wrong. If my suggestion made you feel that way, so be it.
Sure, It's your life, n if people's opinion isn't what you are seeking for, then why the fook you posted this article?
You are helpless for sure, n I think a lot people can see what's ganna happen in coming years but you
Trust me that you sure will need luck to keep you marriage, even I don't mean it, LOL
Btw, your fiance is definitely out of his mind.
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